Story by Sisira (BBO: Sisira)

Mr. Rex Perera is much more than a Bridge enthusiast. He is a Chartered Civil Engineer who excelled in his studies, graduating at the top of his class at St. Anthony’s College, Kandy. His association with Bridge began during his university days and, I believe, continued while he was in England.

Like all young men, he must have had many dreams and ambitions. Yet one passion remained constant throughout his life: Duplicate Bridge.

His love for the game has transformed even his home. The living and dining areas have given way to Bridge tables and chairs for players. One cannot help but wonder whether his wife ever objected to sacrificing part of the family home, or whether she too embraced and supported his lifelong passion.

His commitment does not end there. Rex has equipped the Vajira Bridge Centre with modern computerized scoring systems used in Duplicate Bridge tournaments. Every table is provided with bidding boxes and boards, while the playing area is air conditioned to ensure the comfort of every participant. It reflects his determination to provide facilities of the highest standard.

But Is Rex a Good Teacher?

Some teachers are professionally trained in the art of teaching, while others come directly from universities with expert knowledge of their subjects. The best teachers understand the strengths and weaknesses of each student, correct mistakes promptly, and encourage continuous improvement. In the military, instruction is often firm and loud, intended to instill discipline without delay. Sadly, there are also teachers who become jealous when a student excels and choose to keep part of their knowledge hidden.

Our own literature reminds us of this through the story of Guttila and Musila. In Ven. Veedagama Thera's Guttila Kaviya, this relationship illustrates how jealousy between a teacher and a gifted student can lead to unnecessary conflict and suffering.

Rex is the complete opposite of such a teacher.

He hides nothing. He shares everything he knows and patiently guides every student to the very best of his ability. Often, he invites a player to his computer screen after a session and carefully explains where improvements can be made.

I remember partnering Rex on one occasion. I made a serious mistake at the table, and he raised his voice in frustration. Having spent many years in the military, I accepted it without resentment and focused on learning from my mistake. Later that very evening, Rex telephoned me personally to make sure I was not upset. He patiently explained the hand once again, this time with kindness and encouragement. That simple gesture revealed the true character of the man behind the teacher.

Today, the Vajira Bridge Centre has become a respected home for Bridge players. Rex could have spent his retirement in comfort, yet he chose instead to give his time, energy, and knowledge to others.

Through Bridge, he has taught more than technique. He has helped shape minds, strengthen discipline, and build the qualities of patience, humility, and partnership. In a world often divided by conflict, the Centre stands as a living testament to his vision, a place of fellowship, learning, and quiet excellence.

Rex Perera’s true legacy lies not only in the game he loves, but in the community he has built and the lives he has enriched. Long after the cards are put away, his influence will remain in every player he has guided and in every friendship his work has helped create.

A fitting tribute to a remarkable teacher, mentor, and friend.